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Momentary Miracles & Habitual Energy Patterns

A quick story…

So for the most part of my life I’ve had really tight hamstrings and, even if I was stretching, I could barely bend down and touch my knees most days. But last night something kinda crazy happened.

I was in a short but deep meditation and felt to express my gratitude for the health that I do have, to express gratitude for every aspect of my physical body—especially my spine (the communication highway of my body!), and to bless it with pure Source energy.

After a short while doing this, I noticed the discomfort I regularly feel in my lower spine start to dissipate—to basically melt away. It didn’t go completely, but noticing this, I stood up and immediately bent down and touched half way down my shins. Now, for most people this is nothing exciting at all, but for me?? This was practically a miracle.

This made me laugh out loud.

It was a great joyous laugh—and, with the fervour of a child tasting ice-cream for the first time, I exclaimed “everything really IS energy!”. (It might have been embarrassing if people were watching! haha).

You see, for a long time I’ve mentally assented to the idea that everything is energy and that everything has an energetic basis for being (including blocked or denser energy forms creating our lack of wellbeing at times), but perhaps I hadn’t completely, full-heartedly and genuinely believed or embodied it… well, not 100% anyway.

So, after a bit of a celebratory spirit dance and a laugh and a lot more gratitude, I eventually went to bed. But the next day I woke up and my flexibility was almost back to where it was previously.

And this got me pondering:

“Why is it that people have short-lived break-throughs?”

Almost immediately the words “habitual energy patterns” popped into my head and, ever the empty-cup student, I asked “what the hell does that mean?!?” haha… but actually, I already knew what that meant.

This is the same concept I’d heard numerous times before — often with different words around it, but the same idea nonetheless. A well-known example is Rupert Sheldrake’s Morphic Resonance theory:

“Morphic Resonance is a process whereby self-organising systems inherit a memory from previous similar systems. In its most general formulation, morphic resonance means that the so-called laws of nature are more like habits.”

So what’s the takeaway from all this?

I could deep dive with this and explore and extrapolate the meaning of habitual energy patterns, but I think it’s pretty straight-forward…

It’s like cardio exercise or running; keep doing it and your physical fitness will rise to optimal levels. Or like self-talk; spend years telling yourself you always figure it out, and—you guessed it—you’re likely to always be able to figure it out, no matter what.

The only thing is, with energy, its more far-reaching than these personal, external habits, and often far less conscious. Energy patterns can be inherited from your parents, from your peers, from what you often watch and listen to, from your culture, your community and ultimately the entire organism of humanity to some extent.

So, what this means is…

  1. Without a continued conscious re-focussing of our energy, beliefs and thoughts, our experience will be the result of our previous habitual energy patterns—most of which are completely unconscious and out of our control.
  2. Some things take time and a lot more “digging around” than we’d probably like, in order to find, clear and replace any “stuck” energy patterns — stories, beliefs, memories, thoughts and anything else that hinders the flow of pure Source energy and our inherent possibility of wholeness, love and bliss.

To be honest, this second bit isn’t my favourite because in the past I’ve always been that guy that seeks the holy grail — the ultimate panacea — but it seems clear to me now. Either seek out skilled light workers who can help you uncover and clear patterns, blocks and dense, coagulated energy forms in your system, or learn how to do it yourself. Then put in the time to clear them and weave yourself into new habitual energy patterns.

Of course, sometimes your environment might make it challenging to maintain this sort of continued re-focussing. Sometimes you might need to make some radical changes. But, we must be careful not to confuse those big changes (like moving cities, getting a new job, or finding more supportive friends, etc), for the real work that we need to do — finding daily gratitude for what we DO have, raising our own vibration through food, fun and focus, and the ongoing conscious intermeshing of our own soul into more positive energy patterns.

As for me, well… I’ve got some work to do!

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Finding Balance with Grief

So, as it turns out, I’ve inadvertently been a bit of an asshole lately….

A friend of mine is going through a hard time and I thought I was being helpful by spouting off all my “how-to” type ideas around Bliss. But it came across as TOTALLY lacking in compassion because I didn’t acknowledge the real depth of grief that people can experience sometimes.

You see, for me personally, if I gave in to the idea that bliss is an illusion and experiencing misery is some sort of un-transmutable human condition, then I’d simply give up on bliss altogether and probably drink myself to death, leave my kids fatherless and perpetuate the cycle of misery.

So I choose to align with (and put my entire focus on) a belief that gives me hope and keeps me moving forward (that at our core we are pure bliss/love/peace focussed on expansion and gnosis)… Now, towards myself I don’t really exercise compassion so much—I can’t allow myself to wallow in my own misery, other than to be completely present with it long enough acknowledge, thank, clear and transmute it (rather than resisting it and locking it into my system somehow)—so I guess that’s why I might inadvertently come across as heartless at times.

Of course, like most of us, I’ve experienced plenty of grief too.

Grief in my childhood, grief when my parents separated, grief when I had to leave my home and country and start life over at 15, grief at my own mistakes in my late teens and early twenties and, more recently, a few years back my wife and I separated, and that caused deep grief as well.

But it’s hard to keep putting all my enthusiasm for Bliss in the compassionate context of our tainted human experience every time I open my mouth to speak or every time I write something…. because I have trained myself to focus on what I want, not on what I don’t want.

Needless to say, I’m very grateful to have been “called on it” and now I have to work on finding balance otherwise I’ll never be able to help people in real need (which is ALL I really intend with my work in the arena of Bliss).

The bottom-line?

Grief is a normal, natural experience which is only ever problematic when we resist it (or ignore it) and lock it into our systems somehow. The ego will indeed try to make it part of our story but, by turning and facing our grief, acknowledging it fully, being present and non-judgemental, we can begin the healing process and—in time—return home … to Bliss.

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Finding Your Purpose

This just came up in conversation and I thought it might be useful to share these thoughts on FINDING YOUR PURPOSE…

After trying for years (unsuccessfully) to get some sort of magical “intuitive” understanding of my purpose I came to realise it was pretty straight forward.

I simply mix …
[a] what I passionately LOVE doing with
[b] HELPING people in
[c] the areas of difficulty that I’ve PERSONALLY OVERCOME
… then it all became crystal clear.

I’d love to hear if this works for you, or if you have a similar (or different!) approach?

It’s important to realise that we don’t have to be a genius or a guru in any area to be helpful or “on purpose” — if you’re one step ahead of someone else in a challenging area of life, then you’ve got some thing valuable to offer.

The other important consideration is that ANY way you can lift people’s vibration then you’re on purpose — it doesn’t have to be complicated, “spiritual”, formulaic, formalised, “ordained” or fit into any pre-approved “box” that others may recommend. If you love it and it helps people, just do it. If it feels great and it works, just do it.

NEVER wait for anyone to give you the thumbs up and IGNORE anyone who tries to pull you down (including yourself! haha).

As a final note; I think it’s also worth being cautious of losing yourself in the drive to “monetise” your passion/purpose. So many people are out there trying to sell books and courses on this subject and I think this can be extremely problematic. Don’t get me wrong, I’d be the first person to admit that I’d love to earn all my income from my books and courses, but if I make this the primary objective, I’d be highly likely to give it up — because it often takes a lot of time and consistent effort to build a new income stream like that…. and in some cases, it’d be almost impossible to earn an income directly from your purpose-driven activities.

I know some people who are called simply to meditate, lift their own vibration in order to lift our global vibe, and who’s going to pay for that? I do believe your needs can be met miraculously, but if you are relying solely on donations, you might go hungry sometimes!

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The Path to Success

Many people think the path to success, happiness and enlightenment is a direct path. Often we think we just have to find the “right” path — like there’s just one, or like it’s simple if you know how. But the reality is quite different, and the path is often as uniquely different as each one of us…

Sure, I do believe that there are important universal commonalities that we all share, however the formof each commonality which makes one person happy in this lifetime may not be anything like the form which makes the next person happy. And often the path to realisation of what makes us happy is distinctly different for each person.

The ‘trial and error’ method

For me, it’s a series of smaller realisations — noticing how “that over there” makes me feel, and then going “over the other side” to see if that works for me and how that feels for me personally. It’s important to stay open to new experiences and possibilities (read about the beginner’s mind), otherwise you might miss out on ideas — or, more accurately, a specific presentation of an idea — that works best for you. I talk a fair bit about the importance of ‘contrast-creators’ in my book The Journey Back to Bliss. That’s because discovering what we DON’T want in life creates a contrast that enables us to get very clear on what we DO want. Without that contrast, it’s almost impossible to truly be clear on our own path to success, happiness and enlightenment.

So what’s with the “take the straight and narrow path” idea?

Whilst I do think moral behaviour is a good thing (we should never harm anyone else on purpose), for me, this biblical idea feels more like a “control” measure. It creates a sense of guilt when you make mistakes or simply enjoy a life that others might think isn’t on “the path”, which hinders the flow and sense of good in our lives. So crucify me, but I’m not a big fan.

The first thing that comes to mind here is so-called pagan spiritual practices. Something which would have you damned to hell if you listened to those religious folk … which I don’t.

First up, I don’t believe in hell (although it might be a useful construct to get my kids to behave!? haha, just kidding) — any construct that evokes fear is something created by man, not by an eternally love-centred Source/God/Universe to which we are all intrinsically part of.

Second, when you look into it historically, most religions are originally based on those same “pagan” practices, just with different words and a few extra man-made constructs thrown in for good measure. Sadly, many hideous wars have been fought over those words.

We are experiential explorers.

So go out and, as long as it doesn’t harm yourself or anyone else, have a whole bunch of whatever fun feels like for you and ignore the naysayers! In my experience, that’s the path that leads to success—at least on a personal level anyway: find a way to live life on your terms and “explore” with others who enjoy the same stuff.

Sure, you might make “mistakes” and discover things you really don’t love, but that’s all just part of the process of discovering your best life and what you DO love…. So get to it!

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Life is Geared to Help You

“Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers, ‘Grow, grow’.” —The Talmud

The idea that life is geared to help us is one of the fundamental beliefs that changed my world. But unfortunately, I had a very distorted perspective on this earlier in my life, because I misunderstood why “bad things happen to good people” — I thought that the bad things happened because the good people had either messed up, or because they didn’t have enough faith to keep the “bad stuff” away. Basically I thought there was a devil trying to kill us and a god trying to save us (but only when we had faith in that god) — and I was stuck in the middle, spending my life feeling punished for my inability to get it right.

(Phew! What a nightmare… I’m glad that’s over.)

But then I started to notice something…

Like flowers growing out of the cracks in concrete pathways, the areas of my life where I had “found a way” through the challenges, hardships and roadblocks of life were blooming. In fact, when I stopped fighting those situations and, instead, used them as opportunities to learn something or find a new way to do something, then those situations ALWAYS ended up benefitting me in some way. Most of the time I found that I never had to face that same problem again, and even if I did, I could use my previous positive experience as a type of PROOF that I can find a way through, no matter how bad it looks.

I discovered that those problems were here to help us, not hinder us.

Well, actually both really.

The problematic people we meet, the financial “mess” we find ourselves in, the anger we feel, the heartbreaking anguish, the times we “lose our way”, the tools we break, the computer that fails us at seemingly crucial moments…. the many, many challenges we face ….all of these things are here to arrest our attention—to hinder our mind for long enough for us to WAKE UP to a better way of living.

You see, most of the time we just run like clockwork—automatic responses based on previous subconscious “programs” and beliefs. And our minds are even hard-wired to “protect” the status quo—to protect our existing way of seeing and ‘doing’ life—so most of us would never wake up to a better way of living UNLESS we had some sort of pattern-interrupt occur.

So I started to see problems as circuit-breakers instead…

But much more than that, I could see that the problems not only held the ability to stop us in our wayward tracks, to notify us that there was a better way of doing that aspect life, but they also acted as a roadsign to redirect us to that better way.

Take for example…

  1. The problematic people we meet… People press our buttons. I found that they highlight parts of ourselves that we don’t like and provide the mental energy required to change our own behaviour in a positive way.
  2. The financial mess we find ourselves in… Debt is a killer. It sucks. It’s stressful… BUT, it also provides us with some very clear roadsigns (and the energy to change direction), showing us that our own spending/saving habits are flawed, and in fact that the whole financial credit-based system is flawed. It also helps us (eventually) to understand that “always wanting more stuff you don’t need” is a disease created and fueled by clever marketing and popular belief. That’s the killer if you ask me.
  3. The computer that fails us… I had many instances of this (some which occurred at crucial times like the day of an urgent deadline) UNTIL I understood the idea of circuit-breakers. Now I generally only have problems with my computer when I’m working for too long on something that’s not in line with my personal goals for my work, or perhaps when there’s a much better/easier way of doing something that I just haven’t seen yet. So the computer crashes or slows down, or some other issue occurs for long enough to get me to stop and reconsider what I’m doing at that time—to find a better way, or to stop doing that altogether and simply take a break (if I’ve been working too long) or do something else that is more productive (or more in line with my personal goals).

The key is to loose focus

We often get very focussed on what we’re doing. We’re practically “inside” the task at hand. Particularly when there’s some sort of emotional involvement (like a relationship for example). We often can’t “see” anything else and we simple “see” more of the same thing (task, object, strategy, person, etc). Like when you want a certain car (or have just bought one) and all you notice on the road is that particular model of car. Our brains are simply wired that way.

So, if indeed there is a better way (or a better relationship!) available to us, we will only be able to notice it IF we first loose focus on what (or who!) we are doing. This isn’t easy. This isn’t even natural.

But life is here to help.

CRASH!!! It’s a three-car pile up on the freeway. Your car is one of them. One car gets of with just a scratch. It had better handling. It had a stronger frame…. It WASN’T your car. Which car do you want now? 

It’s best to learn to love the challenges of life

There is always something to learn. There are always ‘higher’ roads to travel. There is always a smoother way of ‘doing’ life…. and unfortunately, that means that there will always be challenges.

The good news is that it gets easier. THEY get easier as you notice them earlier and earlier each time. You get braver and mentally stronger as you build up a list of times you’ve used challenges to move on to something better. You know these are your opportunities to evolve. And everytime you evolve a little more, your life gets a little better. One day you’ll wake up (like I did) and see that everything is perfect (even when the computer crashes…. AGAIN!).

Happy travels!

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The Holy Grail of Finding Happiness

Sometimes, when things just aren’t working for us, we need to start fresh. It’s like old an old PC that simply needs it’s whole operating system upgraded — we need to upgrade our whole personal modus operandi…

When I started my journey I tried temporary resets, such as moving to another state — and that helped for a little while, but then eventually I found myself with the same set of issues and deep unhappiness. I also removed recreational drugs and alcohol from my lifestyle because I knew those things were taking me on an emotional and chemical rollercoaster that was making it very difficult to attain happiness. However, this still didn’t solve the problem (although it did enable me to think clearly enough to continue my journey).

So I realised that it wasn’t really anything external that needed modifying. Rather, it was my internal approach to life (which is determined by my personal beliefs) that was the most important factor in this game of life.

The New Goal

The new goal is to learn to feel the bliss and ‘Magic’ in our personal experience of life… in other words, to overcome depression, anxiety and stress and simply find happiness, serenity and fulfillment.

Please note an important distinction here — I’m not talking about seeking one-off amazing events that create extreme euphoria and then leave us with an emotional hangover the following day, month or year. I’m talking about instigating real change in our perception and experience of everyday life.

The Old Problem

We often get so lost in our sense of self — projecting our beliefs and ideas about life as an intrinsic part of who we are, rather than just seeing them as programs given to us by others that we can edit, update or irradicate completely if they fail us. Then we lose sight of our bliss — justifying our depressing existence with those same beliefs and subconsciously seeking out “proof” that our life experience is limited to those beliefs.

The Simple Solution

I have discovered that there are often just 2 thoughts separating those who are uninspired (disatisfied, depressed, addicted and even suicidal — I was all of these) and those who are inspired (happy, successful, content, evolving)… These 2 key mental directives create a seemingly “magical” pathway that can lead even the worst-case individual to an experience of daily bliss (which is where I find myself these days). Sure, you’ll still have some rough days (especially when you’re starting out), but I promise you that it gets better … and better … and BETTER as time goes on.

The 2 Key Mental Directives

Please don’t mistake the simplicity of this for a lack of depth or importance — this is the holy grail of overcoming any level of depression and finding happiness as far as my life is concerned, and I believe it can have the same effect in your life if you’ll put it into practice.

These are the two thoughts, or mental directives that we need to install (like a computer program) to ‘upgrade’ our minds…

  1. I am learning life’s lessons — seeing ‘bad experiences’ as good teachers and ‘good experiences’ as signposts — and will seek out a new approach to life if my current approach isn’t working or bringing me the feeling of natural bliss.
  2. I am proactive — taking as many small steps as I can easily manage — and will seek out all the actionable commonalities of success which bring me the feeling of natural bliss, not singular interpretations or unsupported views which offer me little or no sense of bliss.

How to ‘Upgrade’ Your Mind

The easiest way is to use these 2 directives as DAILY affirmations (I actually recommend twice daily — as soon as you wake up and just before you go to sleep) which you say out loud (with conviction and determination!) and/or perhaps write it out each day until you know it almost word-for-word and feel like it’s fully ‘installed’ (I often hear a new program ‘playing’ in my head without actively thinking about it, which is when I know that I’ve ‘upgraded’ that belief).

Also, I suggest copying them into a document, making the text size as large as you can whilst still fitting them on one page, print it out and stick it on your wall where you’ll see it clearly every day. If you don’t want to put it up in your office, then perhaps print it with smaller text onto some card that you can cut out and stick in your wallet (and look at several times a day). Whatever you do, it’s important to keep focussed on it, because it won’t come naturally to your mind at first.

I can’t give you a specific timeframe to place your expectation on, because for some people this ‘upgrade’ happens very quickly and for others it takes a little longer. However, although it’s definitely not an overnight process, it definitely is worth sticking at it because once your view on life has been ‘upgraded’ your whole life experience will be totally transformed into something infinitely more blissful than you have experienced before. And, no matter how long it takes, you will notice incremental improvements along the way too.

A Very Important Tip

Don’t fight your old ‘programs’ and beliefs. The basic construct of your mind is set up to protect itself, so if you try to fight an established belief, it will actually ‘fortify’ itself more strongly and be far more difficult to upgrade. Instead, when you find your old beliefs resurfacing, just gently acknowledge them by thinking (or saying) something like “Yes, okay, I acknowledge that’s how I thought in the past, but now times have changed and I’m opening my mind to upgrade to thoughts and beliefs that ‘serve’ me better” … or perhaps simplify it to T. Harv Eker’s favourite “Okay, thanks for sharing!” and then simply allow the thought to mentally pass you by like leaves in a stream.

First, you have to disassociate yourself from the thoughts and beliefs (your mind is just a tool that you use, not your actual self), then all this becomes very easy.

I guess some people might call this process enlightenment — but that word seems to lack emotional impact in my mind, so I just call it feeling the ‘The Magic’.

Happy travels!

Matt Mahalo

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P.S. Please click here for more information about this process of overcoming depression and finding happiness in your own life experience.